Evidently you people agree that I have shorted out in the brain.
I do not know if this concerns me, or if I should be glad that finally someone is agreeing with me.
But then I talk to my mother for a while and realize that I am heads and shoulders above her when it comes to having my head in the game. Today at lunch, she did this thing TWO TIMES--one of my pet peeves---she asked me right in front of a stranger if I knew who that was. This drives me batshit because, for various reasons, everyone knows me. They not only know who I am by name, they can hardly ever confuse me with someone else once they have met me.
Me--not so good at remembering who everyone in the world is. I am sure that shocks you. I am particularly bad at knowing who someone is, just because their dad taught with mom for twenty years, or I know their aunt. And have not seen these people since they were born. It is even worse if they are related to you.
I have a morbid fear of being embarrassed or ridiculed (or overlooked but that is another story). So when mom asks me right in front of people if I know who someone is, I just want to die. Because I promise I only know about 3 out of 100 times. What could be more insulting for someone to realize that a person does not know who they are, and there likely is a reason I should know them. It is just awful. No matter how good a faker a person is, the person always knows you are winging it.
I hate this. This is not news at all. I have hated this my whole life, and many times in a year, we have this conversation. Until this year, mom always says she is sorry, she knows I hate that and knew she had stepped in it.
TODAY, she tells me she does not see the problem and why does it bother me and she did not know that it makes me uncomfortable. Of course it makes me uncomfortable, and I have not been unclear about saying so, in the hopes that it would stop.
Is this what I have to look forward to? Forgetting everything I ever knew?
Shoot me now.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
So you agree?
Posted by Paige at 10:20 PM
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this would so totally unglue me. I'd be so embarrassed I'd want to crawl under the table. I have, however, learned how to deal with some of the forgetting....by saying I don't know who they are. "Do I know you?" "You look familiar but honestly, I can't remember" and an apologetic smile.
it would be totally different for me if my mother did this to me though. Pointing this out to people is not cool.
Did I say you were losing it?!?! I can't remember...I think I am actually the one losing it LOL!!!!! yeah I'm thinking that would be a little awkward for you...Aren't mom's so *funny* not!!!
Lord have mercy I'm also terrible with names. It has taken me almost 3 months to remember the names of the 10 people I work directly with. There are another billion (really only 15-20) in the other labs who know me but I only remember 4-5 of their names. I just hate it. Tonight I called one of my coworkers by the wrong name. I was so embarrassed.
Numbers are my memory thing. For some reason those stick in my head. Alas there is no prize for knowing your families social security numbers or the home phone number from when you were a kid or even the 12 number PIN for your calling card.
If I were president of the USA everyone would go through life with name tags on...front and back. That would be the platform I'd run on. Maybe I'd get one vote...yours - that is if you could remember my name.
Well--thought provoking blog today!
You said Mom drives you batshit
Well from a Mom-----old one----that is why we are thought to be batty, dingbats, and no doubt drive our wonderful daughters batty!
It is called Battology. It is a disease. Maybe you will get it and maybe you won't. Only you will be able to tell.
Those who have it try very hard to DEAL WITH IT but sometimes it gets out of control.
Your laugh for the day
but understand fully and have been in your shoes in one life and in your Mom's in the other life.
Enjoy, keep cool, laugh Carol
OMG! I am HORRIBLE with names! and sometimes FACES! (ELPH has perfect recall and rolls his eyes when I give him the blank stare) Always have been, so I worked up the courage to just admit it, right there to their face. "Oh Golly, you look familiar but I'm just so horrible with names. Please forgive me!" Yes, they may think I'm a ditz cuz I've met them 9 times in the last year and STILL can't remember their name but then again...I AM a ditz:)
Oh! And I've been meeting with these same ladies once a week for Knit Night for almost a year. Yea, can't remember 2/3 of their names. Seriously.
I can't remember anyones name. Thats why I call Shawn , HONEY :)
Your MOm drives you batshit crazy? try growing up with a Mom who is hearing impaired and you have to loudly repeat EVERYTHING< EVERYWHERE.
Then goes off on these weird tangents and talks to complete strangers about the strangest things all because she can't hear.. Yeah.. Batshit crazy I know...
I am so thankful to have a NAME for my condition....battology.
Love you, too,
Mom
After years of bartending and waitressing, I got really good with people's faces, but very often never knew their names. I always told My Honey-If I don't introduce you to someone who starts talking to me...it's because I don't know their name. Please feel free to introduce yourself and then we will both know that person's name. It worked great!
Now, when someone does something like your mom does. I try to look a little sheepish and then simply say, "Gosh, I know I should, but it just isn't ringing any bells at the moment." Usually that breaks the ice, introductions can be made...blah, blah, blah and sometimes can even reverse the point of embarrassment from you to the person who is making such a big deal about whomever you are "supposed to know".
Now when it comes to horses...I never forget a horse.;)
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